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Every now and then a group of people assumes the traits and behaviors of sociopaths alvin August 17, 2019 - 5:10pm

This is a fun response from this Ask Polly Q&A:

“Your in-laws are next-level, off-the-charts batshit.

Every now and then, a group of people assumes the traits and behaviors of sociopaths. Maybe one person in the group completely and permanently lost their doughnuts several decades prior, and slowly, each member of the group learns that playing along with this singular menace is the only way to survive. Eventually, the members of the group are so utterly confused and gaslit by each other that they enforce the will of the group and nod along with bizarre opinions until they can’t even remember what it means to think logically or have free will or behave like other regular human beings on the face of the planet.

Because these people are confused and weak and angry — and because they’re rendered increasingly more confused, weak, and angry by their exposure to each other — they tend to have less and less contact with those outside the group. And when they do encounter someone who’s not in the fold, they recoil and attack. Anyone who questions the group is attacked with words and actions. Anyone who questions the group is bad, and the group is good.”

People don’t want to use your software

This “People don’t want to use your software” quote by @SHL seems pretty smart. And Gumroad does a pretty good job of keeping their software simple.

I was actually thinking a little bit of the opposite yesterday; I thought, “I could care less about Apple hardware, I just like MacOS, or at least I used to love what it used to be.” But in the end I don’t really love the software, I just like that it works how I think an OS should work, and it has a Unix terminal that I keep open all the time.

When people put words in your mouth (because you don’t disagree with them)

People are curious creatures. I found out recently that in regards to Person A, if they say something and I don’t disagree with it, they’ll later tell Person B, “Al said that.” The first time I laughed it off like, “I never said that,” and when it happened the second time I had to tell Person B, “No, that’s not true, what happened is that Person A said that, and I was tired of the conversation and didn’t disagree with it just because I wanted to get out of the conversation.” That’s not cool.

Don’t be afraid to hire people that are smarter than you

I’m reminded of the time right before an interview for a contracting position that a tech recruiter called and told me, “Don’t appear to be too smart. Pretend that you can’t answer some of his questions if you have to. He won’t hire people he thinks are smarter than he is.” I answered every question he asked because if that’s the way he was, I didn’t want to work there.

As a manager or business owner — any kind of leader — always hire people that are smarter than you in one or more ways.

Some people come into your life and change it forever

Some people come into your life and even if they don’t stay in it for long, they make an impact that changes you forever. Happy birthday to two people this month, one who made my life miserable, and another who made it wonderful.