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My happiness depends on me

I love these quotes:

- My happiness depends on me.
- Do not give anyone else responsibility for how you feel.

Unfortunately, many people blame other people for their problems. I hear people say, “If only so-and-so would do xyz, I’d be happy.” Guess what? No you won’t! Nobody else is ever going to give you lasting happiness. If your friend/sibling/whatever is a slacker, they’re a slacker! (And guess what else? You’re judging them, and that makes you judgmental!) Get over it, move on! Tend to your own garden. You make yourself miserable, and you can also make yourself happy. It’s your choice. Stop blaming others.

Is there joy in my partner’s life?

For people who have life partners (spouses, etc.), I think it’s important to ask, “Is there joy in my partner’s life?”

Sometimes we get so caught up in our own lives, we forget to check in with our partners and ask how they’re doing, if they’re happy. (And if they’re not, what we can help do about that.)

Being a “life partner” is a commitment to the other person, and to their well-being.

The case of the cursing woman

“Goddamnit!”

Every so often a woman in a lucid dream this morning yelled out like that, so after the fourth or fifth time I had to ask her about it. “Why do you keep saying that?,” I asked.

“Gets your attention, doesn’t it?”

“Yeah, I guess so.”

“There you have it.”

“There I have what?”

Share it!

There’s just one person behind this website; if this article was helpful (or interesting), I’d appreciate it if you’d share it. Thanks, Al.

Some people are hard to love

Thought of the day: Some people are hard to love. I’m sure there are more categories than this, but the people I’m thinking of today are either mean, negative, self-pitying, or in other cases, they just don’t give you anything to love.

An important part of this thought for me is that none of this has to do with what a person looks like, it’s all about their attitude.

Fifty Shades of Mast Cell Disease

Notes from September 24, 2016:

Doctor: I’d like to collect a bone marrow sample ...

*Al runs out of the hospital in a hospital gown, screaming like a little girl*


(later, after they caught me)

Doctor: The next time you break out in a rash, hives, or blisters, I want you to have those biopsied.

Me: Is there going to be any part of our relationship that doesn’t involve a lot of pain on my part?

Doc: Yes, pee in this cup, and we’ll look at it under a fluorescent light to see if you have the same disease that King George III had.

Me: The crazy one?

Doc: Yes.

Me: Cool.

How far my diet has come

To show how far my diet has come, on May 13, 2013 I wrote this on Facebook: “Huh, the doctor was right. They do have vegetables at my grocery store.”

These days (May, 2017), 80-90% of my diet is organic vegetables.

1-800-NO-Flowers

1-800-Flowers should be renamed to 1-800-NO-Flowers, because an order I placed on the Tuesday before Mother’s Day — which I paid extra to have delivered on Friday — won’t be delivered until after Mother’s Day. Either they or FedEx screwed up the delivery, and now FedEx won’t deliver the order until next week, so with 36 hours left before Mother’s Day, 1-800-NO-Flowers-For-You! won’t do anything to correct the problem.