I don’t know who originally created this image, but I like it. I never really had an emo phase, but I can understand it.
If there’s a dark side to writing books and having a website that gets millions of views, it’s that people who seem to have a lot of angst think it’s okay to leave mean-spirited comments on the website. I moderate all the comments, so outside people never see them, but I’m amazed at some of the angry posts people write. Part of me would like to reply, “Sorry, I didn’t write Unix, Java, Scala, Gimp, etc., I just try to explain how they work,” but instead I just delete their comments (because they never leave a name or email address).
My guess is that the people who write these things are angry at something else and for whatever reason that leads them to think that they can post a mean comment here anonymously, but yeesh, every once in a while the haterade gets to me and I just turn off the ability to comment completely for days or weeks. To the people that post mean-spirited comments like that, you need to take responsibility for your own life and/or get some help.
I’m surprised when many functional programmers feel the need to say something bad about Scala. As a community, that makes them seem like a bunch of people who aren’t very nice. There are things I don’t like about Haskell, F#, Lisp, Scala, Kotlin, Go, Perl, PHP, Python, C, C++, etc., but I don’t feel the need to take pot shots at any languages or individuals.
I don’t know how my father was raised, but at times he could be domineering, mean, and negative. That has created a “cause and effect” karmic ripple that continues to influence people generations later, and long after his death.
(To be clear, he wasn’t all bad.)
My business partners and I have agreed to a cooling off period.
From my perpective, the hardest parts in dealing with these guys is that they give me no feedback, and don't seem to understand the word "compromise." They also prefer to communicate by email, and for me that takes a little while longer than just sitting somewhere with them and working through the numbers. At this point that's fine by me, as I'm still banking $1K+ per day, but it seems like at some point we should really try to get a deal done.
Well, for the third time since this started I've really upset the my business partners, and this time I can't even understand why. What the heck was unreasonable about that offer? They're not even saying anything rational, or countering with "January 1st" or "January 31st", or anything like that.
Breakfast this morning started off like I was sitting across the table from two angry people I barely knew. I've met with customers on troubled projects who were much less upset than these guys, my business partners. My first thoughts were that we shouldn't have done this in a public place.
I let them talk for a while, and then tried to reassure them that I'm still the same guy they've worked with for over five years. I've taught them everything I know, I've tried to mentor them, teach them about consulting, etc. I haven't suddenly changed and I'm not trying to rob them blind.
Wow, my business partners are pissed. I can't think of any better way to say it.
While I thought we were still negotiating, they've come across in emails over the last twenty-four hours like this was their best offer, take it or leave it, and they are furious. Nobody has threatened to quit again, but they've told me we are way off, and that I'm not negotiating in good faith. I told them they said I should make the changes to their spreadsheets I thought were appropriate, and that's what I did. They certainly didn't mention "best offer" when they sent them.