Can never remember the name “brussels sprouts”

This healthy eating thing is still new to me, and I can never remember the name “brussels sprouts,” so I just write “balls” on my grocery list.

~ a note from August 18, 2016

Zen priest, Harvard researcher explains the secret to a good life

“Living in the midst of conflict is really bad for our health. High-conflict marriages, for example, turn out to be very bad for our health, perhaps worse than getting divorced.”

Zen priest, Harvard researcher, and psychiatrist Robert Waldinger explains the secret to a good life, including three key findings: Social connections are good for humans, loneliness is bad; The quality of your close connections is so important that it’s one of the key indicators of whether you’ll be happy and healthy later in life; Good relationships protect the brain.

Some of the abridged text is here on, the full TED talk is here on

Taking care of others can be done with two very different motivations

Taking care of others can be done with two very different motivations. With one, we care for others in an unhealthy way, seemingly sacrificing ourselves, but really acting out of fear or attachment.

People who are attached to praise, reputation, relationships, and as forth and who fear losing these may seemingly neglect their own needs to take care of others. But in fact they are protecting themselves in an unproductive way. Their care comes not from genuine love, but from a self-centered attempt to be happy that is actually making them more unhappy.

~ A quote from Buddhism for Beginners, by Thubten Chodron