The secret of change is ... alvin September 8, 2018 - 11:16am

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”

~ Socrates

Learn to say, “I hope that works out for you”

“Learn to say, ‘I hope that works out for you’, rather than trying to ‘fix’ or change people.”

~ from Maryam Hasnaa, image by

(I see a lot of people who bring stress on themselves by trying to control friends, relatives, and partners. Unless you’re someone’s boss in a place of work, you should ask yourself, “Why do I feel the need to try to control other people?”)

Yesterday’s ‘wow’ quickly becomes today’s ‘ordinary’

“People have a voracious appetite for a better way, and yesterday’s ‘wow’ quickly becomes today’s ‘ordinary.’”

~ Jeff Bezos, Amazon, in his 2017 (2018?) letter to shareholders

In a slightly related note I find that work is easier when you have the attitude that what you’re working on is constantly changing, constantly evolving. If one day you think, “There it is, Product 1.0, I’m done,” you’ll find it mentally hard to come into the office tomorrow to work on the same product. The only constant is change, and if you accept that your job is to be in that process of change, life and work are easier.

Create a space for people to grow (Ram Dass) alvin March 18, 2018 - 6:22pm

This is a great quote from my favorite book on spirituality about trying to change other people (and attachment and karma).