By Alvin Alexander. Last updated: January 21, 2024
“Be a loner. That gives you time to wonder, to search for the truth. Have holy curiosity. Make your life worth living.” ~ Albert Einstein
When I think about words like “time to wonder” and “have holy curiosity,” what comes to mind is that when you have an abusive parent, they basically smack the “wonder” and “curiosity” out of you. I remember thinking that I never felt free until I moved very far away from my family, and then felt much more free once my abuser was no longer on Earth.
I know, kind of a morbid thought, but I do believe that abusers — at least temporarily — beat the wonder and curiosity out of kids. (And that’s true whether your abuser is physical, verbal, or both.)