A few days ago I ran into a woman who seemed very stressed out. I had a conversation with her that went like this:
Me: You seem to be feeling a lot of stress, may I ask why?
Her: Yada yada yada ... I’m trying to save my marriage! (Said loudly, with a lot of emotion.) (She starts crying.)
Me: For as long as I’ve known you, you’ve said that you’re not happy, and now you seem very stressed out. So I’m wondering why you’re trying to save your marriage?
I thought it was a simple question — I thought she might say that she still loved the guy — but it turns out she had no answer for it.
She was crying, and tired of crying, so we talked about something else for a while. Then out of the blue she said, “I think I’m trying to save it because I always thought it was the right thing to do. Or maybe I never wanted to be divorced. But those aren’t very good reasons, are they? He really is a mean, selfish jerk, and he’s making my life miserable.”